Case
Nieve Parent

I have a parent who believes everything her child comes home and tells her. Most of the time he is not being honest. The parent has approached me with a lot of issues that do not exist in my classroom. I let her know that but she still continues to believe her child. He has been caught in lies a number of time but she still continues to try to address the things he tells her. What should I do to let her see that her child his not being honest?

Solution #1
Top Solution
Make sure that you document everything that you can on your end. Also, if there is an administrator or counselor that could help you speak with the parent about the things are going on, it might help the parent see the truth. You may want to ask an administrator or counselor to drop by your room periodically so that they can tell the parent what they have observed as well.

Will do!

Solution #2
What I have done in this situation is invite the parent to come and observe my classroom, so he or she can see for themselves what is taking place. I ask them to come and observe on more than one occasion, so they can have more than one vantage point. If it's concerning their students behavior, then I've asked one of our counselors to come and observe the child's behavior and then have them contact the parent regarding the issues. Despite what the parent will believe or not believe, always document everything regarding that student and never have a conversation with that student without one of your colleagues present. When I contact a parent regarding their students, I always make sure that the student is present during the call.

Thank you. This is very helpful!

This would be the most appropriate way to handle this situation.

This is a very thorough solution. It is very helpful.

Solution #3
If any other parents write notes, keep notes. Document and have other witnesses. Ask paraprofessional or counselor to come in just incase.
Solution #4
Sometimes it is impossible to open a parents eyes. I would have a meting with the child, parents, and administrator to see what you can work out. Maybe see if the parent would like to sit in during class one day.
Solution #5
As others have said, definitely document everything that you can on your end! If possible, collaborate with neighboring teachers or other resource professionals to help back up your claims. I also really liked the idea of inviting the parent to come in and observe your classroom. This would give them a first hand experience of what is really going on.
Solution #6
One idea that might work is to have the parent come and sit in on a class one day just to see how things work in the classroom. If this issue continues you might have to get administration involved.
Solution #7
I see more and more of this every year. Parents are allowing their children to run over them. It is absolutely ridiculous. I believe what my child tells me, but I always consider that their version of the truth may be entirely different than what really occurred, this doesn't mean that my child is lying, but in fact that their perception is that of a CHILD, not an ADULT. Also, think about yourself at that age, wouldn't you tell the glossed over version that made you seem better? Parents need to be parents!

Yes the situation is getting worse. I remember doing things as a child but my parents were not that nieve.

Solution #8
For annoying parents like this, I invite the mom to show up and observe the student. The student must not be aware. I have also recorded students acting like an idiot so the parents can actually see how they disrupt the learning environment.