Case
I Love Your Brown Skin

I have a little student in my class that is already infatuated with girls. As I am sitting in the rocking chair teaching, he will rub my legs and express to me how he loves brown skin. I redirected him and he was doing better, so I thought. I p.e. he tries to kiss little girls and tell them how pretty they are. I teach kindergarten. What are some positive ways I can redirect him without making him feel embarrassed for having a crush?

Solution #1
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Without singling out the student, now is the time to present a lesson on personal space and boundaries. There is a great book titled "Personal Space Camp" by Julia Cook where a young boy is taught about personal space using hula hoops. Not only will you be able to promote reading, but it will be a wonderful way to do a whole group hands-on activity in the classroom with your own hula hoops!

This is a great idea! Teaching boundries and personal space is a good thing to learn at this age.

I think it is important to involve creative ways to learn about boundaries

It is important not to single them out yet immediately handle the situation.

Solution #2
I love that he "loves your brown skin". This Kindergartner is obviously very affectionate and appreciates beauty. He may need to meet with you and/or the counselor to discuss other ways to show affection without touching (within reason).

Monirot and regulate affection, do not simply condone it.

Solution #3
This is an opportunity to teach social skills to the entire class. If the students are very young there are book that can be read, or a social skills book can be made by the teacher. Of course a character can be made up such as an animal that will relay other ways to express friendships. If the social stories do not work then further assistance would be needed.
Solution #4
The best way to handle this situation is to make sure that the student knows that there is other ways to show affection. Have the parents be aware of the situation and ask them to explain to their child proper ways to show affection in school.

I would not tell the parents that, it might be offensive. I would have a parent/teacher conference with the child around as well.

The teacher should definitely tell the student's parents. It would be a good idea for the parent to also discuss personal space and boundaries with their child.

I would tell the parent what to do just because they might become offended. maybe think of other ways to bring that conversion about.

Do not tell the parents what to do, but ensure that they are aware.

Solution #5
It may be a good idea to speak with the student alone to see if there is anything strange going on at home, which would cause this type of behavior. Also different cultures show affection differently, so this may be normal behavior in his culture. It is best to speak with the student and if that does not work possibly the parents especially if it is making other students uncomfortable.
Solution #6
I had a similar situation like this happpen to me with an older boy around 8. We all know students love to give hugs and me personally have no issue if a student wants a hug and giving them a hug. I had one boy who was over affecionate and would like to hug for extended periods of time and would continue to place his head in my chest while doing so. At first i thought nthing of it and thought whatever he is really friwndly and he is short. After a couple more times i began to feel uncomfortable and thought it was inappropriate and even thugh it was innocent, someone walking by might not think other wise. On top of that, I witneessed him hug other teachers and it was very short, brief hug. So i would try to cut the hug short,try making the hugs shorter bt he would not let go, and even tell him that he could get 2 hugs a day. Beginning of class and the end at dismissal because he wanted hugs literally every 5 minutes or less but no success. I spoke with my supervisor about the matter and she suggested I sit him down and talk to him about personal space and touching but I did not want to hurt his feelings. What I ended up doing was contacting his mother, very nerous like because it is a delicate matter, and explained the issue. She apologized and said she would talk to him about touching and what not. We actually laughed about it in the end. Turns out he was just at the age where he was noticing things. He came to school the next week and presented me with a fist bump and it was never a problem again. Long story short, inform supervior, administration or whoever of the situation and discuss it with a parent and find alternate ways for the student to interact so everyone feels comfortable.
Solution #7
I would make sure that the classroom rules and procedures are enforced consistently. I would also pull him aside away from any other students and explain to him that his behavior is not appropriate in school. He needs to know that keeping his hands to himself is a important rule in your classroom.
Solution #8
This student definitely needs to understand the topic of consent no matter how young he is. Also, he must understand personal space and know that everyone needs their own personal space. If the behavior continues, parents may need to be involved.

Parents need to be contacted and administration as well.

Solution #9
Speak with the child's parents. Ask a counselor to get involved. Speak to the class about appropriate behabior. Have rules place in clearly in the classroom Maybe because he's so young have a stuffed animal to love on. He might have sensory issues
Solution #10
I would tell him that the classroom is not the place for such actions and you can even joke and say the only girl that he needs to be kissing and caring for right now is his mother.

As a child, tell him that there is no place for that, and that consent is needed.

Solution #11
This needs to be brought to the attention of guidance and administration, as this behavior is not natural for students of this age. On the chance he is seeing this somewhere he shouldn't be, it needs to be addressed.
Solution #12
I would definitely hold a class lesson on personal space and how to properly show affection to other people without physically touching them or being rude. This will be a great thing to teach younger students and is a great thing to do as it prevents the student from being singled out and embarrassed.

Adressing the class is imnportant and useful.

Solution #13
I think talking about saving the hugs and kisses for family is helpful. I also use the personal space or stay in your bubble for this age. They usually get it.
Solution #14
talk to his parents!
Solution #15
This is a tough one, since he is so young and at that age where he is used to constantly being shown affection. I would provide him with alternatives on how to display affection, such as hand shakes or fist bumps.

As a child they do not know better, but parents need to be aware tp handle that.

Solution #16
I would definitely talk to his parents, it is cute that he has crushed but touching and rubbing other people is a bit much.
Solution #17
I had this problem in the past. I would speak to the student with anotehr teacher or counselor, so he does not feel like you are attacking him and let him know he cannot put his hands, feelings or express words like that to other students. Tell him there is a policy and it is in the handbook.

Contact parents and ensure that they are teaching their children about consent and proper action.

Solution #18
I would contact administration, the guidance counselors, and the parents. Showing this kind of affection so early may be a sign of some inappropriate behaviors toward the child.