I would first let the counselor talk with the student. She/he may get some information that you may not know about and this could help you handle the situation. Once the counselor has met with the student, then I would meet with the counselor. Find out what information she/he has to help solve the problem. Discuss whether the counselor or teacher will follow up on the situation to see if it improves after the counselor has talked with the student.

Believe it or not, there are rules against talking to parents about things like this. After talking to the counselor and the problem still persist, then a children's agency might need to become involved. I don't think that as teachers we are allowed to give students things like bars of soap or new clothes. It is crazy how many rules there are about this like this. Maybe do a class lesson and personal hygiene. It might be that this student just does not know how to take care of him or herself.

I think you should have a note sent home to every students. This note being a happy "Yay your child is growing up! Let's all wear deodorant". Something happy and upbeat to remind the parents that they should have their children take proper precaution when it comes to their hygiene.

I believe the solution to the situation depends on how comfortable you are with talking with the child or the parent. I would most certainly go through the guidance department to resolve the issue but if it persists I would try and slide in a personal hygiene discussion in the class that the child is in. The child will not know that it was directed towards them and it is helpful for everyone to hear as well.

I would ask the parent if we could have a conference in person or on the phone, and to them that you think that your child might have a small bladder and ask them if their child as the same problem at home. Explain to the parent you are not trying to tell them what to tell them you are just concerned for the child, and want to make sure it is nothing serious.

I would directly speak with the child's parents over the phone when the child is not present and figure out what is going on. Make sure the child is not around because this can be very embarrassing for him/her.