Case
Needs a Father Figure

I have a student whom is trying to impress me. One day, he feels bad behavior will impress me. The next day, he explains his favorite things. He disrupts lessons in order to go into detail about himself. How do I give him attention without taking away fro the lesson?

Posted on: 10/10/16 | Views: 1254
Solution #1
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Give him positive attention and reinforce behavior you wish to see. For example, when he is on task and doing well, make sure to tell him you like what he is doing. This is attention he will appreciate, and he didn't need to distract to receive it. Offer activities that allow for self expression, but do not give in to his disruptive behavior.

That is a wonderful idea.

i agree, reinforce good behavior and don't give in to disruptive behavior.

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Solution #2
Maybe put him in a peer group with students that he has a lot in common with and they can have time together to discuss and talk about their lives. Also, you could invite him to lunch bunch with you and other students, where he wouldn't be disrupting classroom time but he would get to socialize a little more with you.
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Solution #3
I would try to plan out certain times of the day that he can have one-on-one attention from you. For example, if you are on duty during lunch, sit with him at that time. During recess, play a game with him outside. You can also give him certain jobs to do during the classroom that will both help you and give him a sense of purpose inside the classroom.
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Solution #4
You could try implementing a short time at the end of the day/week where students can share about themselves. This would allow him the time to go into detail about himself without taking away from a lesson.

I think this was a good solution and one that should be tried out! It seems the student is clearly trying to get attention, and at this point the most effective way might be to try and give him that attention but just not during class and setting aside time during lunch or at the end of the day once a week so it doesn't take a way from class time.

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Solution #5
I think the best idea would be to try and give this student attention when appropriate. Obviously during a lesson or class time would not be right. I think while walking to lunch or taking him aside and asking how his day is going could help reduce the frequency of his behavior.
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Solution #6
Reinforce positive behavior and verbal encouragement. Maybe an incentive could be to give the student a positive lunch detention. If he does well in your class and doesn't interrupt, then he will be able to spend lunch with you and this will give him time to tell you what he needs to share.
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Solution #7
I would give him specific positive praise when he exhibits behavior that you want within the classroom. I would ignore his outbursts if they are not too disruptive, but I would also pull him aside after class and explain that this is not what is expected.
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Solution #8
A solution you may attempt is to create a daily journal where students may write about any topic they chose. Students can then volunteer to read their journal aloud to the class and you, the teacher. This is will be able to give this student time to share about what he wants to in a productive manner.

This is a great idea! Another option is to have the students write about what they want to the teacher and the teacher can respond and give them back the next day or a couple days later. This allows students to better the writing and grammar skills, as well as develop a relationship with the teacher.

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Solution #9
I wouldn't say he needs a father figure but maybe he's has other siblings at home or his parents work a lot in which he lacks attention. I would attempt to show him that he has my attention and he is important but he can not continue to interrupt my lessons. I would explain to him that there will be times where he can talk and share things.

This is a good solution, the student does need to know when it is an appropriate time to talk.

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Solution #10
Give the student responsibility during your lesson. For example tell the student that you need him to help the class understand a topic and he is in charge of passing out the papers. This gives the student a sense of importance from you and will hopefully help you teach your lesson without him disrupting.
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Solution #11
Obviously he is seeking a relationship that he doesn't have elsewhere. It is important to set boundaries but also give him an outlet. You can try giving him 5 minutes after class of your full attention, telling him that if he doesn't disrupt the class to tell him things etc. he can have your full attention at a certain time.
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Solution #12
Teachers have very little time throughout the day in between teaching so finding a time to give the student one on one attention may be difficult. I think aside from positive reinforcement the student can write and reflect in a journal the teacher will then red when there is time and respond, giving it back to the student before the end of the day so they see you are interested in what they have to say. I also think having breakfast or lunch with the teacher is a good idea but should be done once a week or so and only when the student has continually displayed good behavior.
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Solution #13
Try setting a class rule or procedure involving students staying quiet during instruction and keeping all thoughts to themselves unless being called upon. You can introduce the rule with a few more so the student does not feel targeted.
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Solution #14
I would call his mother to see if he ever acts like this at home. If you know that he doesn't have a dad without crossing a path I think you should try your best to be a role model for this child but not let it interfere with being his teacher.
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Solution #15
I would attempt to re-direct the behaviors and by doing so this should eliminate the negative behaviors. Provide said student with opportunities for one on one talks, since this child needs a father figure, attempt to find someone in the school that could occasionally check in with the student and meet to talk about hobbies or other things going on outside of school.
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Solution #16
I would sit down with the student and find an appropriate time for when he can talk to you. Whether it be five minutes before class starts or before they leave for lunch or P.E. This will allow the student to focus on the lesson without being disruptive because he knows he has a set time to talk to you.
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Solution #17
I have had similar situations as an intern in low SES areas that a majority of students do not have a prominent father figure. I like to use verbal reinforcements for behaviors that are acceptable. Let the student know that you notice them and you are proud of their work. This will drive them to keep working hard and doing the right things.
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Solution #18
Maybe implement a "scheduled attention" time with him and all the students. This way the student feels like he is included in the room with you and can tell you about his hobbies and such.
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Solution #19
I believe a way to give him attention without taking away from the lesson would be to tie the lesson back to the students in a way where they can express themselves through the assignment.
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Solution #20
I would try to plan out certain times of the day that he can have one-on-one attention from you. Such as during centers, pull the student aside to work one-on-one with him.
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Solution #21
Communication is everything. Sit down with the student and talk to him and tell him what you expect from him in the classroom, and when it is appropriate to call out and talk about certain things.
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Solution #22
Start with maybe ignoring the students all day. Then during times that are free ask the student about themselves. Or do a show and tell time biweekly or something. Some times students do not get love at home and then demand it at school. Just have to find time in the day to show that student that you care.
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