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Kissing at recess

Some of the kids have made up a new game at recess. The boys will chase the girls with kissing gestures and sometimes kiss them when tagged and vice-versa. I have witnessed this game and told students to stop. The matter was also addressed to the whole class after recess. One week, later students are playing the game again. What should I do?

Posted on: 10/10/17 | Views: 1286
Solution #1
I think there are a few steps to take. To immediately correct the behavior, have the kids sit out any time you see them playing this game. A silent recess means they can reflect on their actions and will be prompted not to do so again. I would also explain to the whole class, without singling anyone out, as to why this game is inappropriate to play. A lesson and a notice home to parents so they can address this at home, as well. If the problem persists, the students can loose recess privilege all together, and that usually does the trick. Perhaps more teachers/staff out at recess as well to help watch and correct the behavior? If available of course.

This is reasonable and provides students with a chance to understand why the behavior isn't appropriate, as opposed to just being told no.

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Solution #2
This should receive immediate punishment. Students that do this need to know that it is innapropriate. A good way to handle this would obviously be to take away recess everytime it occurs. If that fails, parental involvment would be reccomended.

If I were in this situation, I would do exactly this. Students need to know that this kind of behavior will not be tolerated.

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Solution #3
Since it has been told for the students to stop playing this game and still do so is a problem. The consequence should be sitting out for recess for the students who insist on playing this game. The students need to know that it is an inappropriate game.

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Solution #4
Since you have already addressed the whole class about the inappropriate behavior and students are still not following the rules, I would have those students sit out at recess. The students could sit out silently, be sent to a classroom of a colleague and given work to do, or loose recess for a period of time that you see fit. When you feel they have earned back the right for recess, allow them to go and if the situation happens again contact parents.
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Solution #5
Contacting parents and letting them know what is going on at recess is a good thing to do. Usually, parents will try to put a stop to this behavior and you can always email parents if it continues to happen with their child. If it still persists, remind students that if this action lingers then there will be consequences for indecent behavior.

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Solution #6
If this continues after the situation has been addressed, I would take away recess or go out and have the students all sit. This has worked before with issues my Kindergartners have had on the playground. They had to earn the privilege to go outside and play back.
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Solution #7
Introduce new consequences for playing this game, specifically. School is not a place for gestures or actions such as these.
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Solution #8
I would speak to the students again about why the game is inappropriate and add that their will be consequences if they play it, for you are making it clear that the game is not going to be tolerated. consequences could be lost points, recess, etc...
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Solution #9
if the students do not listen and continue to play the game then you take recess away. Once you have taken recess away for a couple days you try again. If this continues then you need to write a note home to the parents letting them know what is going on and that if it does not stop recess will be taken away for the rest of the year.
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Solution #10
I would personally pull the students aside from recess and talk to them. I would then write their name down to refer back to later. Since most counties legally require students to play during recess, there is not much that can be done for them besides tell them to stop. Once you get back to class, I would call parents of these students and explain to them what is going on. I would of course then document all of this information into the county data base in order to show that you have attempted to solve this problem.
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Solution #11
Maybe you should try to take away recess the next time that the students play this game. Explain to them that this is not an okay game to play and that if this behavior continues they will not longer have recess outside. You could introduce different games as well.
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Solution #12
I would have my students understand the consequences and implement them as soon as the behavior continues. I would involve parents as well and make sure the behavior stops.
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Solution #13
I would definitely speak with them about kissing being inappropriate in school and letting parents know this is going on.
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Solution #14
You need to start writing the kids up instead of just talking to them about it. Until you take action, they are going to think that you're warnings aren't gonna do anything and continue to do it until they see that you're serious.
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Solution #15
This is a tough one. Not sure where they picked it up probably from everything they see in the media and social media. If this elementary school students which I believe are the only ones that still do recess. I would just let them know that if this behavior doesn't stop then recess will have to be replaced with more school work.
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Solution #16
Administration should be made aware of the game and the extent to which the game is being played at recess. It is possible that administration will have the problem made aware over an announcement or letter home to parents. Ask parents to speak to their children about not playing the game.
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Solution #17
I would stop the game have them sit in time out and lose recess time. During this time I would talk to them about how this is against school rules and inappropriate behavior.If this continues than I would explain to the students that we would have inside recess for the week and if the game continued their parents would be contacted about their behavior.
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Solution #18
I would immediately stop the game and explain that this is inappropriate behavior for school and really anywhere. Even if you need to get real and tell the children that you kiss someone you love not everyone and you do that in private or simply not at school. Set the expectation and consequences. Allow for students to create a new version of this game and offer appropriate suggestions instead of kissing. If necessary you could take it into science and teach the kids about germs and disease transmission through the mouth, saliva, blood, etc. Make it an appropriate grade level of course.
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Solution #19
i would make them sit on the wall until they learn to behave and play the cooties card.
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Solution #20
Explain to the students that it is not appropriate at school and no-one should be touching anyone else. Also explain germs and that you don't know if someone may be sick and other issues that relate with harassment and what will not be tolerated. If they are going to continue to choose to not listen then they will no longer have a recess and instead will do more class work if they want to not listen.
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Solution #21
Since a warning has already been addressed I would say a consequence might be the next step. I would tell them that students that participate in the game again will have to sit out for recess, and if the issue persist I would contact the parents of the students involved
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Solution #22
Since a warning has already been addressed I would say a consequence might be the next step. I would tell them that students that participate in the game again will have to sit out for recess, and if the issue persist I would contact the parents of the students involved
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Solution #23
i would make them sit on the wall until they learn to behave and play the cooties card.
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Solution #24
Tell the students that instead of free time in recess that you can come up with a structured game for them if they want to continue not listening and doing things that are against the rules.
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Solution #25
Tell the kids they have to blow kisses or hand hug instead. Explain that there are so many different ways to show love and that kissing should be kept with family only.
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Solution #26
I think that when you see them playing the game, those who are participating should have to sit out for the remainder of recess. This will show them that this game is not allowed and that they will lose their recess privilege if they continue to do so.
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Solution #27
If you see any kids playing this game, remind them that they are not allowed to do this. If they are doing it after you've spoken to them, sit them out with you.
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Solution #28
If that is against school policy, which I believe that it is, then I would send those students to the office on a referral.
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Solution #29
My first step would be to make those students sit out for the activity especially if you have already had to say something to those students. If that does not work I would either call home and talk to the parents or send a note home and tell them that you would like to speak to them. And lastly as a final straw if nothing is successful I would write the students up.
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Solution #30
Kids can be like that when they are young, take away recess if it does not stop.

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Solution #31
I would address them as a class again, tell them that they've already been warned once and if they do this again they will all lose recess for the rest of the school year.

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Solution #32
remind them of the consequences and if continued take away recess
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Solution #33
I would stop recess until the students understand what you are talking about. If they enjoy going outside for recess, then they will stop after not going outside for awhile.

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Solution #34
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Every time you see a student playing, they lose recess and have to sit with you. If the whole class has to be sat out, then take them inside and make them do classwork instead.

This might work but I would be contacting the parents of those students playing the game and let them know the situation and that they have already been told not to being doing this.

I think this is a good immediate solution. I agree contacting the parents would also be helpful. However, rather than doing work, I'd have a silent recess. This will allow the students time to reflect before moving to the next activity.

The loss of recess and free time is a good solution if the children do not learn their lesson, however I would also recommend explaining to students why this game is inappropriate (not appropriate behavior for school, that kissing is not something they should do right now) and possibly redirecting them into a new game first. Children do need reasons for a lesson to truly stick sometimes.

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Solution #35
I would keep telling them that this is not okay until hopefully it stops. Eventually if it is still happening I would have a talk one on one with each parent so they know what is going on at recess.
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