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Girl Drama

I have five girls in my after care program that can't seem to get along. I have split them into different groups and they always seem to mess with each other. All the girls have been talked to by the principal about bullying and their parents were involved but they continue to bother each other and say rude comments. I don't know what to do next.

Posted on: 02/26/18 | Views: 1014
Solution #1
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When you say that you separated these girls into different groups do you mean that you moved them far from each other? Just because they are in different groups does not mean they will not come into contact with each other. I think you should try to make sure that they do not go near each other, and if they do then you need to set out some type of consequence for them. If they say something rude maybe they will lose playing with their favorite toy or they cant use their phone. You could also try to figure out the root of the problem. Maybe pull each one aside individually and ask them what the problem is.

I agree. Applying consequences to the girls may be the only way to get them to stop, or at least get one or two to do so. It may be necessary to sit the girls down for mediation with a councilor so that they can understand what they should be doing instaed.

I feel this is the best solution, separate the girls and ask individually.

If I were in this situation, I would do this.

I agree and think this is the best solution. Consequences may be the only thing that will get them to stop.

I agree this would be an effective solution to the problem with these girls. Space can be an important part of avoiding drama.

I agree with this solution. If I were in this solution, I would do this.

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Solution #2
If the principal, parents, and everybody has been involved in this process, then the only thing that you can do is continue to document the behavior and treat it accordingly when it occurs. If they keep doing it and going against the rules, they have to be punished accordingly.

Try to find the cause of the problem. Also, maybe try understand both sides of the students and find a way for both students to see the other side of the students. I'd hope if they understand each other, then maybe the behavior will cease.

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Solution #3
I would consider doing a lesson on bullying and the effects on people. Is there a way that the girls can be separated in different rooms to try and stop the problem. I would continue documenting any incidents and continue to speak with the parents. Maybe some of the students wouldn't be allowed to come to the program if the behavior continues.
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Solution #4
Definitely, document the situation and keep parents and administration in the loop. I would separate the girls but also try and have conversations with them. I would explain how hurtful bullying truly is and teach them lessons on moving forward and avoiding drama. However, if all else fails, document! Bullying should not be ignored.

This is the course of action I would take if in this situation. Separate them and talk to them about bullying and that it is not tolerated.

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Solution #5
Since the administration and parents have been notified of the behavior, I would document the behavior and follow the agreed upon procedures regarding proper discipline. Depending on the situation, I would also have the guidance councilor intervene and sit the girls down to discuss matters in a way that is not accusatory and maybe even have the girls engage in supervised team building activities.
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Solution #6
Separating to girls will only make them want to bother each other even more. Since a meeting with the principal and the parents did not resolve the situation there needs to be consequences set in place because as of right now its making it seem like the bullying is okay. With consequences set in place this will show the girls that they should not be bullying each other.
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Solution #7
Parents are some of the strongest people to get change to happen. Getting parents more involved to help the situation move along faster is a good way to get the students to stop bullying.
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Solution #8
I would try to relate to them on a personal level. Share your personal experiences (in a respectable and appropriate way) so they can see that even an adult has struggled with different friend groups and learning to get along. Encourage them to find a sport or an after school activity they can look forward to that will keep their minds off of other girls.
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Solution #9
I have a smilier situation to this as well. During snack and arts and crafts I have seating arrangements for the entire class (So they don't feel like they are being targeted) but the seating arrangements has each of them at a separate table. They already know they are not going to tell across the commons area, so that eliminates them from a lot of time spent together. When we go out for recess, they all like to play with these foam gymnastic type blocks so I allow each of them a rotated time they can play with those toys, but not together. It is important to always actively monitor them when they can't be separated. Watching over the entire class prevents everyone from misbehaving. Encourage the girls when they are playing well with other students, and reinforce positive behaviors.
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Solution #10
Bringing the girls together for a mediation to find an equitable way of working out their problems. Talk about examples of similar situations that will happen in the future that will need to be resolved. Such as, in the work place.
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Solution #11
I believe that the teacher would need to set up consequences that went along with actions.
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Solution #12
If they are continuing after principal and parent involvement, the next step may be that they cannot come to the after school program anymore. They have to know about consequences and that it now affects their parents, especially if them not going is a big inconvenience.
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Solution #13
As a director of a before- and -after care program, this drama is most likely occurring because the students are not engaged. Find lessons and activities that students can do to distract them. When students are not engaged, problems will arise.
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Solution #14
I would say that these girls are not responding to this form of punishment and something else should be tried. Maybe make them write a paper highlighting nice things about one of the other girls, or apologize in front of everyone when they make a rude comment. I don't know their age but maybe taking away a more preferred activity will entice them to stop bullying one another.
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Solution #15
If one of the other solutions have worked, they need to have consequences for continually not following the rules, it may go as far as suspension. They have to get the point that their behavior is not tolerated.
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Solution #16
Never hurts to call in support from a higher authority.
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Solution #17
I think that more severe consequences should be implemented, bully these days is not tolerated at all and with such a big group there should be a stop put to it immediately.
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Solution #18
i suggest having a sit down with the girls and work out their differences in a calm and productive mannor. This ensures they cooperate and you being the teacher are there to facilitate the sit down and come to a mutual agreement with everyone.
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Solution #19
i suggest having a sit down with the girls and work out their differences in a calm and productive mannor. This ensures they cooperate and you being the teacher are there to facilitate the sit down and come to a mutual agreement with everyone.
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Solution #20
let administration know of the issue again and if needed kick the student out of the program if the behavior is continued
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Solution #21
Depending on the after school program, you can suggest the idea of having the students separated into different classrooms/ parts of the school with different counselors, making sure those girls are in different groups. Also, making sure that the students have a task at hand and know the expectations is crucial.
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Solution #22
Keep them on opposite sides of the room! Have a talk with them, a mature understanding of the situation and propose solutions to them.
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Solution #23
There needs to be consequences that come from the school. I also think that the girls need to realize that they are hurting the other girls feelings really and truly.
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Solution #24
I would continue to document the behavior and remind them that if they cant work out their differences then there will be consequences. continue to involve the parents and the principle as well.
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Solution #25
Instead of separating them, i would put them all together and figure out what the problem is. Have them talk it out like human beings. Let them know being mean won't be tolerated. Also try to use positive praise. Praise the students who are kind to one another. Make it "cool".

I do think this is a good idea, but I believe these girls may be past that point. I think giving consequences would be the next best thing.

I like this solution because it has the girls communicating with personal experience I really don't think it is going to help the situation at all. consequences for bullying should be talked about with parents and administration.

I do not feel like this is the greatest idea for the situation.

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Solution #26
Oh, girls will be girls is a saying for a reason! Girl drama is not something that can be ignored. Since you have tried everything else, I would get with your principle and start tallying. For every rude comment - no matter whether it was to offend or defend - it is a certain amount of minutes of quiet time for all of them in separate corners.

I am really sorry but I completely disagree with this solution. Also, I'm slightly confused what you mean "girls will be girls", both girls and boys can cause the same amount of "drama". I am not sure that issuing them quiet time will help this situation either.

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Solution #27
I would get a planner or something where you can document their behavior and provide a time stamp of when these events are occurring. This will allow you to have a case of information to provide the principal with if the problem persists.

I would not do this. This is wrong.

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