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He is just being a boy!

I was in a classroom where there was a boy who most people would call obnoxious. He constantly calls out, makes fun of other students, and try to discipline other students. When trying to talk to him about what he is doing he turns it in to a joke, also the teacher had issues with the students making fun of her. When the parents have been told whats going on the dad just says " he is just being a boy, what is the big deal?" How would you handle this issue?

Posted on: 04/23/13 | Views: 1738
Solution #1
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I would first start off by pulling the student aside and letting him know the rules and procedures to your classroom and how his behavior is not acceptable. Giving the student warnings, detention, or being sent to the office is all different ways to show the students behavior is becoming a problem. Once the other students in the classroom notice he or she is getting in trouble for his actions they will begin to stop as well. As for the parents, it's hard for them to understand since their not actually in your classroom but, notifying them when the student gets detention or sent to the principles office is a good thing to do. It may grab their attention better that their son or daughter's behavior is disruptive. Even so last but not least praise the student when he or she is doing well. Praising positive aspects will reverse his actions and still gain attention but, for doing well.

I really liked your solution. I think that also praising the child when doing well is important.

I liked your solution. I think using the means of sending to office etc is also a great idea. Most students don't like to be sent out of class.

Really like this solution.

I agree with your solution. Another way to help the parents see that the behavior is more that "just being a boy" is inviting them to spend time in the classroom. Last year, I had a student that acted this way and after his grandmother came to hang out for a few hours she realized that his behavior was interrupting the learning in my classroom she agreed that his behavior was unacceptable.

I agree with you. Hopefully sending them to detention and to the principles office will help the student understand that their behavior is not acceptable in the classroom, and hopefully letting the parents know that their child's behavior is serious and they should take some form of action on how to help with the situation. I would even take it a slight step further by also documenting the child's behavior so that way in a parent teacher conference it will help their parents understand why their child is being sent to detention and so on.

This is a good suggestion, it gives great steps to helping the student become better behaved.

It is always a good idea being direct with the student.

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Solution #2
First thing first, this student obviously has some affect on how the students behave in this class. Immediately speak to him one on one. See what is troubling the student and what sort of agreement you two can come up with. Convince him that you depend on him to behave and you know he can be a model student for you and for the other students to follow. When it comes to the parents, tell the parents that these misbehaviors will cause more problems for him especially when he gets older.

I agree with your solution. Talking to the student to make sure they are aware of their actions is a great idea.

If I were in this situation, I would do this. I think talking to him one on one would be a great solution.

I like this solution. Talking with the student one-on-one to comeup with a solution is a great idea.

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Solution #3
Keep a record of how many times this occurs during the day and how many times you must stop class to correct his behavior. Present the data to the parents at the next meeting. Usually if you have data to prove your point, the parents can't argue that!
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Solution #4
I would also keep detailed records of what his exact behaviors and comments were. By presenting facts to his parents this may help paint a better picture. You also may need to reference school policies to show that his actions are not taken lightly. As far as the student, I would try pulling him out and having him sit in another classroom to do his work, if he is out of the situation with the students he is comfortable with, he may realize that the teacher is not kidding.
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Solution #5
It is important that both the boy and his father know the rules that the teacher has laid out. Also the father needs to understand that his son is not exempt from the rules simply because "he is just being a boy". Let him know that all of the students in your classroom are treated equally and that his son will be held responsible for his actions just as everyone else is. If the behavior continues disciplinary action will be necessary. The teacher should be sure to take note of all of the times the boy has interrupted the class, been disrespectful, and how he has done so. This information may be important to present should the parent complain.
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Solution #6
I would begin by pulling the student aside and once again going over the rules and procedures of the classroom. I would also explain to the parents that although creativity and self-confidence is a great thing, behaviors may distract other students.
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Solution #7
"He is just being a boy" is the most commonly used excuse for young boys who are allowed to get away with things simply because of their gender. It is, however, not the student's fault. I would pull the student aside and address the issue and explain to them why their behavior is inappropriate and breaks the classroom rules that they are not exempt from. If the behavior persists I would take it a step further and have some sort of formal punishment, such as a referral or write-up, to let the child, as well as the parents, know that this is a serious issue that needs to be addressed.
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Solution #8
Many times it is difficult for parents to admit there is an issue with their child because it makes them feel like they have failed as a parent in some way so this may be the reason he said "he is just being a boy". I think it is important to make sure the parents understand you are not placing any blame on them but the behavior is serious and inappropriate. Perhaps a behavior contract would be beneficial for this student. Something that the parents can help create so there is consistency at home and at school.
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Solution #9
Set consequences for his behavior. "He's just being a boy" is not an excuse. If his parents aren't being cooperative in ending the behavior, then you have to find a solution. Talk with administration or a counselor about the issue. They may have some tips for you to handle it or they can intervene and try to correct the problem.
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