Case
Students confiding in teachers

A student of mine has recently confided in me and shared that she feels like there is group of students who are making her feel left out. She says it's no big deal and that she doesn't want them to make fun of her for tattling on them, but I feel like it's affecting her more than she lets on. Should I tell the school counselor?

Solution #1
The student is clearly being affected by the group of students. In addition to passing on this information to the counselor, I would ensure that I make time for morning meeting to happen everyday to strengthen the classroom community and peer relationships. If said group of students do make fun of her, I would contact parents. The classroom is a safe space and bullying should not be tolerated under any circumstances.
Solution #2
This is a tough one as you want the student who confided in you to feel like they can still trust you but it would be good to have a conversation with some of the students who are making her feel left out 1 on 1. See if maybe there was something that happened or if they are just different individuals, and then maybe see if there are other students in the school who the first student might have similar interests in based on conversations with other teachers.
Solution #3
I would talk with the group of students and not mention any names and just kind of see what they are interested in and why they may seem selective or not including of anyone.
Solution #4
Yes, involving the school counselor is a proactive and supportive approach. While respecting the student's wishes is important, teachers also have a responsibility to ensure the emotional well-being of their students. Before taking action, I would first reassure the student that her feelings are valid and that seeking help does not mean she is ‘tattling.’ I would explain that the counselor’s role is to provide a safe space to discuss her concerns confidentially and work on solutions together. Additionally, I would monitor the classroom dynamics and implement inclusive activities to foster a sense of belonging for all students. Addressing the issue subtly, without singling anyone out, can create a more welcoming environment. Taking these steps shows the student that her concerns are taken seriously and that she has a trusted adult advocating for her
Solution #5
It’s great that the student confided in you. Even though she downplays it, it’s a good idea to talk to the school counselor. They can help support the student, whether through individual sessions or addressing the group dynamic. Let the student know that seeking help isn’t tattling it’s about making sure she feels safe. Involving the counselor ensures she gets the right support without feeling isolated.