Case
Disrespectful student

I am a teacher's assistant in a middle school classroom. Recently, one of the students has taken up quite the attitude with me and even begun to deliberately ignore what I say and cause the other members of the group to even feel uncomfortable with his behavior. I have no idea why he is expressing such defiance, and frankly, I've never seen anything like this before. What should I do?

Solution #1
Middle schoolers are so tough to deal with so your frustration is warranted! Have you spoken to the lead teacher? I would recommend talking to him/her about the student first and try to figure out what could be causing the student's shift in attitude. It could be something at their home or something silly like trying to look cool in front of friends. The teacher should be able to help with ways to combat the attitude according to class/school policy. If that doesn't work, I'd recommend a private conversation with the student regarding his/her attitude. Make it known that you are serious and that there will be consequences should the behavior continue (like a note home, involving superiors, etc.). Good luck!
Solution #2
I think a good first step would be communicating with the lead teacher and seeing if she or any other staff in the past have faced similar issues. They may be able to help come up with some helpful solutions. Sending a note home may also prove helpful and possiblly working with the family to come up with some rewards systems for this behevaior if it proves to be persistent.
Solution #3
Often times, building relationships with students can prevent a situation like this from happening. Middle school is rough for these kids, and as hard as it may be to experience this, understand that this student must be going through a rough time either at home or at school or maybe both. Discuss this with your lead teacher to gain more insight to what could be at play here. Behavior specialists are also helpful when what you say is not reaching the student. Defiant behavior is not a reflection of you and your competency, but underlying factors that are affecting the student and manifesting in this way.

Adding to this, keep in mind that these students are going through physical and emotional changes. They may not be aware of the attitude they have picked up, so patience is key.

Solution #4
After trying to talk with the student one-on-one, if the proble is still not resolved, I would proceed to send a note home and request the parent/guardian to call me or to set up a conference with me to address the issue. If it continues, I would go through formal consequences like ISS or something similar.
Solution #5
Set the classroom environment differently and try to motivate them. Instead of saying no, try to get their interest. Students want to rebel, but they also want to do well. Find the in between.
Solution #6
I think that maybe single ink him out in this circumstance may help. Sometimes that type of attention can help change someone. He may need it.
Solution #7
This depends on what kind of attitude you are receiving. If you believe it is minor behavior then you can just ignore it, and continue to positively reinforce positive behaviors in the class. Soon this student would want to be acknowledge and may follow through copying their peers for that attention. If the behavior is more severe, then it would be most appropriate to have a one-on-one meeting with the student and if need be ask to meet with the principle or guidance counselor.
Solution #8
This depends on what kind of attitude you are receiving. If you believe it is minor behavior then you can just ignore it, and continue to positively reinforce positive behaviors in the class. Soon this student would want to be acknowledge and may follow through copying their peers for that attention. If the behavior is more severe, then it would be most appropriate to have a one-on-one meeting with the student and if need be ask to meet with the principle or guidance counselor.
Solution #9
Some jobs just arent for certain people. Good luck :)