I would try to understand where the parent is coming from, and simply set up another meeting time with the parents and ESE team. ESE meetings are often missed and rescheduled, and although it may be inconvenient, the meetings are necessary.

We have had instances where a parent refuses to show up at the predetermined time. We try everything in our power to reschedule for a time that is convenient for all parties involved; however, that is easier said than done. When we cannot find a common meeting time, we usually meet as a group of teachers and give our inputs and if the parent decides to come, then the case manager has the teacher's notes if they are unavailable at the time.

Unfortunately with an IEP there are so many variables and different individuals that must be involved that rescheduling can often be a problem. I have been to several IEP meetings where the parents outright refused to show up. IEPs can be done without parental involvement, however is behooves the child for them to be there. If the parent doesn't want to be involved, unfortunately that's their loss. All IEP meetings are documented, so if the parent comes to the teacher or school and disagrees with what is being done they will have to be reminded that they did not want to participate in that meeting. The IEP meetings can not be pushed back because of a parent. They are scheduled far in advance already for their benefit.

That is understandable from the parent and student perspective but very frustrating as a teacher. It might be inconvenient but a rescheduled meeting seems to be the best solution in my view. The day's incident will overshadow the meeting to at least some degree if it were still held.

The IEP can be held through a conference call as well. If the parent is okay with it, you can call them and hold the meeting with them over the phone. Otherwise, you can ask for their permission to proceed with the meeting, send home the finalized copy, and set up an amendment meeting if the parent wants any changes made.

There isn't much you can do, try and understand where the parent is coming from and just reschedule the meeting at a later date that works best for the parent.

I would try to put yourself in the mother's shoes and understand where she is coming from. IEP meetings are very important and are necessary, but can be rescheduled to another day that works for the parent.