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Blaming The Teacher

I have witnessed many parents who like to make excuses for their children. They also like to blame the teacher. I have heard several comments such as "well, what did you do to make Bobby mad?" I have never known the proper approach to dealing with these situations.

Posted on: 02/21/15 | Views: 1060
Solution #1
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I would calmly explain the whole situation to the parent, and would let them know what triggered Bobby's anger. I would completely disregard their question of what I did to make him mad, because this is an attempt to cause conflict. I would make a log of what things happened before an instance of anger, as well as after. This log will allow the me to provide evidence of triggers for his anger.

Sometimes you have to show proof to get results.

Great solution.

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Solution #2
I would have a parent teacher conference if the parents keep blaming the teacher. I also would keep details of the child acting up so they know that it is him and not the teacher.

I would do the same, I would keep a log of his anger and the situation so they know that you are not instigating it.

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Solution #3
Definitely keeping a log of the child's tantrums and behaviors is a good idea. I would also ask the other teachers to keep a log of his behaviors as well so that the parents can see that he has the same issues in other classes and not just yours. This puts the issue back on him and not on you as the teacher. Again, you are just doing your job.

This is a very thorough solution. It is very helpful.

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Solution #4
I would have a parent teacher conference if the parents keep blaming the teacher. I also would keep details of the child acting up so they know that it is him and not the teacher.
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Solution #5
Log everything! I know this is difficult, especially with a full class of students, but it provides evidence parents can't refute. I log every single time I have contact with a parent. That way when they come back at the end of the quarter angry about grades, I can pull up exactly when and how I contacted them several times throughout the quarter regarding the situation. It can be the same for behaviors, incomplete work, etc.
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Solution #6
I would need to know the whole situation. I am assuming that the child did something wrong and was disciplined, then the child got mad over being disciplined. That being the case, my response would have been, "I did my job!" Maybe Bobby doesn't get disciplined much at home, but when he's in my classroom, he's expected to follow my rules. If he doesn't, he gets disciplined. Parents who don't discipline their children frequently make excuses for them. Let them blame me all they want. Fact of the matter is that in society there are rules that are expected to be followed too. They are called laws. When Bobby grows up and breaks a law, he will go to jail. Case closed!

Yelling at a parent will never solve a problem. Teachers have to be more professional and respectful even when a parent isn't.

You attract flies with honey and not vinegar! Document, document, document! It also helps if other teachers document similar behaviors too.

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