I have volunteered in several elementary classrooms, & i find two things have helped me get the students to listen: 1: this first one might sound terrible, but: notice what they fear/avoid. Do they fear spiders? The behavior specialist?Mom? Do they avoid reading work? Math? P.e.? Find out why. This could be a triggering thing to them & hinders their work. Also knowing that they care if you call their mom is important when things get really hairy. 2:Listen to them. I think nothing helped me connect with "that one student" in my classes more than listening to them, acknowledging how they feel, and either agreeing, or asking "why?" To gain more understanding. They need someone who cares. Often they want attention, but rather than ignore them completely or spend too much time on disciplining them, ignite meaningful discussions that will help you understand where they are coming from & how to help them.

I had a student like this one and the thing I found to be most helpful is linking his favorite foods, etc to assignments. For math I would substitute the words in the problem to his interests. For example: "There were four birds in the tree, one flew away. How many birds were in the tree". Sometimes I would just reword the whole thing. He LOVED huskies, so I said "There were four huskies in the house and one went for a walk. How many Huskies were left?" and surprisingly enough he would respond to this.

Don't give up on him. Continue working on getting to know him. You can integrate activities and discussions into lessons that not only help the student meet objectives, but tell you more about the individuals in your class. Once you really know the student you will know how he learns, what engages him, and what types of reinforcement work best with him.

I would use his favorite things and create a behavior plan that rewards the student with their favorite things. Have a plan that the student and parent is aware of and ensure it will be implemented.

Using the things that he like in the classroom will help with some control issues, but also finding out What the dislike. This can help you get to the student better and why they may be acting like this in the classroom.